Questions Couples Who Are In Love Should Be Able To Answer About One Another

It’s easy to think you know everything about the person you’re with.

When was the last time you asked your partner something more meaningful than “How was your day?” or “What’s for dinner?” It’s easy to think you know everything about the person you’re with.

But people evolve over time, and relationships thrive on curiosity. Asking the right questions can help you better understand your partner and deepen the emotional intimacy between you.

“The ‘right’ questions deepen emotional connection and shared meaning,” licensed marriage and family therapist Tara Gogolinski told HuffPost. “They focus on each other’s inner worlds, not trivia facts or sameness. Couples who understand each other’s emotions, needs, and desires are more resilient, more satisfied, and better able to navigate conflict.”

Dr. Annie Hsueh, a licensed clinical psychologist and couples therapist, said asking thoughtful questions also helps partners develop a “love map” of one another’s inner world — a concept popularized by relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman in “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.”

Couples who maintain detailed love maps are better able to navigate stress, conflict and life transitions, such as having a child or coping with illness.