Column | Vivek Sharma and the human condition

Vivek Sharma's journey from tragedy to purpose, transforming lives through cancer-related ventures and storytelling, inspiring resilience and hope.

Life can crash-land and go up in flames in six hours. Your only child, a healthy five-year-old sunbeam, your primary source of joy, can step off the school bus, devour his snack, head off for a nap — and never wake up. How does any parent find the strength to emerge from this?

Vivek Sharma, 41, once a marketing professional who wanted a family, car, house and job, has spent the last decade remaking himself after his son fell into a state of unconsciousness due to a bleeding oesophagus and passed away hours later. “If someone had asked me then, ‘What is the purpose of your life?’ my answer would have been very different,” says Sharma, who was born in Delhi, brought up in Kanpur, and moved to Mumbai with a suitcase of standard issue dreams. “Now I don’t value any material thing. I believe I have been chosen to do something that nature wanted me to do.”

Like all of us, Sharma says on a podcast, he is a storehouse of memories from faraway times that can jostle their way back to centrestage, as if they were freshly minted. In our conversation, I’m guilty of making him relive some of his best and worst memories. “Very tasty, mumma,” Amogh, a gentle, nature-loving boy, would tell his mother Sweta every time he ate her food.

Amogh’s sudden death in 2014 — at the same hospital where he was born — marked the starting point of a journey that led to a book and podcast (both titled God Is Not Fair?) and several cancer-related start-up ventures, in partnership with Sweta, all with a singular purpose. “Transforming other people’s lives is the only purpose of living,” says Sharma. “Pehle meri aukat nahi thi.” Earlier, he believes, he wasn’t ready. Sharma’s suffering gave him a new superpower.

His podcast, which ran for five years, logged a million listeners. The first episode of his new podcast Dil Ka Haal Sune Dilwala is just out on YouTube where he discusses loneliness and solitude, and harnessing the power of storytelling to heal and inspire people.

The couple’s decade-old social entrepreneurship venture Uhapo was set up after a series of smaller efforts, including a cancer awareness foundation — named after his son and his classmate’s cousin who had cerebral palsy — and a matrimonial site for cancer survivors that has brought together 56 couples since 2018. The name is from the Hindi word uhapoh meaning a state of uncertainty or ambiguity. Sharma says that by removing the h, he is metaphorically clearing the doubts and offering clarity.

In his conversations with cancer survivors, Sharma realised there was a vacuum in their lives. He confirmed this when he surveyed around 700 patients and their caregivers. “Nobody knows why cancer happens. And everyone wants to know ‘Why did it happen to me?’” It was a feeling Sharma could identify with, and one that likely made him plunge headlong into helping those who face this disease. For a small fee, Uhapo helps people navigate cancer, connecting them to psychological support, diagnostics, government schemes and other financial aid, among many other things. One study last year said India was on track to become the “cancer capital of the world”, predicting that the country would see 1.57 million cases of cancer in 2025.