Your Partner Says 'They Don't Care About Valentine's Day.' Should You Believe Them?
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We asked marriage therapists, and they had some strong feelings.
You ask your new partner if they care about Valentine’s Day, and they say, “Nah, not really!”
Do you A) take them at their word and go about your day, or B) figure they’re feigning indifference and buy a box of chocolates or a bundle of roses just in case?
We’ll make this simple for the dudes out there: The correct answer is almost always B. Assume she’s underplaying her interest, and buy or plan something. (This advice goes for women in relationships, too, of course, but let’s just be real, the onus for gift-giving on Valentine’s Day is largely on men. However fairly or unfairly, straight men are also the ones who have a rep for bungling the day.)
Critics of Valentine’s Day see it as the most Hallmark of Hallmark holidays ― and that may be true! ― but it’s a fool who assumes that their partner feels similarly. The wise ones know that even the most cynical of people can be a bit mushy and surprisingly sentimental come Feb. 14.
That was made clear earlier this week, when the author of Cartoons Hate Her mentioned on X (the platform formerly known as Twitter) that she wasn’t as apathetic about Valentine’s Day as she’d initially let on to her now-husband.
