Let us be boring: Disabled people are more than heroes or objects of your pity
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This opinion piece is by John Loeppky, a disabled artist and freelance writer/editor in Saskatoon. It's part of a series called Taking a Sitting Stand about disability issues.
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Travelling with parasport athletes tells you a lot about how folks view disabled people. There's something about being stuck in an airport with a bunch of fellow travellers you'll likely never see again that seems to invite uncomfortable questions about your disability.
At Chicago O'Hare International Airport, in a feat of combining Canadian and disability stereotypes, I was asked if I rode a polar bear to school. "No," I answered, "the bastards aren't wheelchair accessible."
Once, when I was in Minneapolis with the junior national wheelchair basketball team, someone asked if our trip was a Make-a-Wish Foundation request.
In Toronto, I was met with: "Wow, there sure are a lot of you here today." What? Travellers?
In Saskatoon, airport staff got my wheelchair jammed in the baggage scanner and set alarms off. I laughed at that particular bout of chaos as my chair wasn't in any danger.
On these trips, plenty of people also called me a hero — not because I was representing my country and not because I was a half-decent athlete, but simply because I'd gotten out of bed that morning and dared to fly somewhere. Going through security as a wheelchair user takes a ton of effort, but I don't know that it's worthy of being decorated with a medal.
Late advocate and artist Stella Young called this habit of putting disabled people on a pedestal "inspiration porn."
Disabled people are often shoved into one of two categories: the super crip — a person who is assumed to have overcome their disability to accomplish great things; or the tragic, pitiable cripple whose life is defined by how their disability has held them back.
There is endless media coverage that says we are overcoming or confined; a champion or a victim.
Society affords us little middle ground. We are not trusted with our own stories. We are often talked about or around, rather than being given the stage to speak for ourselves.
Many disabled people are also tired of being "first." We continue to break barriers that shouldn't have existed at all. We repeatedly have to challenge perceptions because they're so darn persistent.
What we don't have is the privilege of being boring. Our society believes that to live a wonderfully average, disabled life is impossible.