Why Won’t My Boyfriend Shut Up About How Much He Loves His Ex?
The New York Times
A woman is hurt by the affection her partner expresses for his ex-wife on social media, but he says he can post whatever he wants.
My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for two years. He was previously married for 25 years; he and his ex-wife divorced nine years ago and have two adult kids. They have a great relationship. But I dislike his frequent posts on social media that reminisce about falling in love with her — what she was wearing the first time he saw her, for instance — and how much he loves her still. These posts often include hearts and kissing emojis. I told him they are hurtful to me, but he says he’s free to post anything he wants on social media. He also says he loves me and that’s all that matters. Thoughts?
GIRLFRIEND
You definitely have a social media problem. But it is dwarfed, I think, by more troubling issues: Your boyfriend dismisses your hurt feelings even after you tell him he’s hurt you, and he remains powerfully (and publicly) connected to his ex-wife. Does he also make lovey-dovey posts about you?
